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Katie’s Story

December 09, 2013 at 9:55

"I went to a party once at a friend’s apartment and wound up staying on a little later than everyone else, just talking to my friend and drinking more and more wine. After a while we were both a little drunk and started hooking up, and eventually moved to his bedroom, and I wound up staying over. Although we were pretty careful about the condom I wasn't sure if everything had gone perfectly and I know this friend kind of gets around with a lot of girls, so I was a little worried and decided to get an STI test in college. I told the nurse what had happened and although she agreed to run the STI test, she spent the entire time telling me that I should only be sexually active with a monogamous partner, and ideally only one I was married to, and that my promiscuity is what had led to me having to get a test for diseases that could be so easily avoided otherwise. I felt like she was calling me stupid and easy and blaming me for wanting to be safe and smart about my body and make sure that I was still healthy after what had happened, and it made me very angry, but I didn't want to be rude, so I didn't speak up. I still regret not saying anything to her, because I'm sure I'm not the only girl she’s given a similar lecture to. It was awkward and frightening enough for me to have to go in and tell a stranger what had happened while she took blood samples and cervical swabs, but the judgement and lecture really made it an extremely unpleasant experience." - Katie.